So the other day I was gisting with
a friend, one gist led to another and we got talking about the
"general" notion that men are created with a certain "gene"
that makes them liable to cheat and this act (wrong or right...I won't say) is
widely acceptable in most societies especially in Africa; where a man is free
to "sow his wild oats from Niger to Chad".
In my humble opinion, I think
people "generalize" things or put the blame on the
"society" when they know the action they are involved in has negative
connotations. If the society is to be blamed for every "general"
action, then why doesn't anybody say its natural for a young man to yearn for
success despite unemployment issues? How come nobody says a young African male
should grow up with the urge to be responsible and goal-driven?. Nope, I guess
that's not the "societal" way of thinking.
The "societal" way of
thinking is:
1) Every man is born with the urge
to be unfaithful and he will most likely satisfy that urge either in his early
years or when he is sixty years old with a young "grand daughter"
calling him "baby".
2) 90% of the girls in Abuja are
"runz babes", it is unthinkable for a young girl to work hard, pay
her rent and buy herself a good ride. Nahh,one aristo must be responsible and
it is ok, because that's "Abuja life" for you.
3) Igbo people are so money driven
that they can sell themselves just for profit and it's ok, besides he/she is an
igbo person and the "society" expects and accepts this action.
I can go on and on, but am sure we
get the drift. When are we going to learn to stand as individuals, each person
responsible for his/her own actions, strong enough to say "I did it
because I felt like doing" and not because "na the usual thing"
or (my favourite") "the devil caused it" (wonder how people
communicate with the devil so effectively...smh).
Give the "society" a
break and be your own regulator, everyone is free to differ with my opinion as
long as they have met a dude or a babe called "society".
Until then...I choose to draw a
clean and straight line between my actions and what the "society"
expects from me.
As your unrepentant critic, I will block you at every turn ℓ☺ℓ. Seriously though, even though most men don't feel comfortable discussing our 'genetic make-up' with the 'enemy' your observation was fair. What is unfair though was the fact that we aren't allowed to generalise about abuja babes while ladies are allowed to generalise about us. The devil might truly be the culprit in some cases oh, that guy can manipulate!plus the mind might be strong but the body is a weak mofo.The guy cheating is a mean,stupid,lasvicious,morally bankrupt and weak man, but he dust himself up, curses the devil and continues to love his woman.
ReplyDeleteHi, my first time here. Nice blog. I go with you and I strongly believe that men and people in general must take responsibility for their actions and stop blaming the devil or society. Men should fight and conquer their demons jare.
ReplyDeleteI just followed you. You are invited to follow my blog. Have a great week!
ReplyDeleteAnon: lol @ "the enemy", although this article seeks to eliminate that which you call "unfair" (generalization). The main example may be the "societal acceptance" of men that cheat but other examples were given too (abuja life mentality and igbo mentality)...so your "gender" was not being attacked ko...lol. I still believe there are people, men especially, out there who take full responsibility for their actions without hiding under the shield of "societal acceptance".
ReplyDeleteEya: thanks and am glad you agree :). i will definitely follow ur blog. have a great week too.