Thursday, January 31, 2013

Too busy! Too Wrong!

I had a gist over the weekend with a friend on the unhealthy drama of Office politics and I felt I should share someone’s thoughts on the matter.

In Washington DC Metro Station on a cold January in 2007, a man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. 

During that time, approximately two thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

After three minutes, a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried on to meet his schedule.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Today in History

Mahatma Gandhi, India's "Great Soul" and prophet of non-violence was assassinated on the 30th of January, 1948.

The Son of a Senior Government Official, Gandhi was born and raised in a Hindu Bania community in coastal Gujarat, and trained in law in London. 

Gandhi became famous by fighting for the civil rights of Muslim and Hindu Indians in South Africa, using new techniques of "non-violence" that he developed.

His "philosophy" can be compared to that of Mother Theresa's; "Peace and Love above All".

Sweet Vinegar

Have you ever read a story, at first nonchalantly, and then when you get to the middle, a “light bulb” just comes on.

And at that moment you realize, this is just what I need right now!!!.

Well, that is exactly what an article by Joyce Meyer titled Shake It Off did for me.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Changing Seasons

Different seasons all rolled in one.

I totally fell in love with this picture the first time I saw it.

What got my attention was the fact that every twist of your neck gives you a different landscape reflecting a different season.

Nice yeah?

You can tell me "thank you" for sharing later :).


Monday, January 28, 2013

The Power of Availability by Simon Onah

AVAILABILITY; a word loosely used in a number of occasions.


Avail-ABILITY has a way of magnifying one's potential when properly harnessed.

After Lebron James led America's dream team to gold in Beijing Olympics (2008), a common cart-pusher took him one-on-one in basket ball skills contest and defeated him.

27-01-2013 : A Niche is Created

Ping Ping.

I quickly scrolled through my Blackberry Messenger eager to read my “new gist”.

Alas it is a forwarded message from my friend, Lucy Wakawa (Advanced). 

Inviting me to register for an upcoming Bloggers Event.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

How To Enhance Your Life

"Change your Thoughts, Change your Life"

A simple statement that holds the all encompassing truth about Life.

Sadness and Happiness resides in our little heads.

You can have a huge mansion and still be as miserable as Scrooge.


Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Lupe Fiasco

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Lupe Fiasco was forced off stage during an inaugural event in Washington DC, last night, after performing an anti-Obama rant.

The Chicago rapper was playing at The Hamilton, when he told the crowd that he did not vote for Barack Obama and went on to perform a 30-minute version of his song “Words I Never Said”.

Monday, January 21, 2013

Share Your Muse

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Musings (episode one)

Dear Diary,

So I flew with Dana Air yesterday.

Yes, The Dana Air.

And despite general speculation, it was very smooth.

No bumps. No gallops. Nothing :).

So I guess its time to cut them some slack.

Yes, they made a huge mistake but who doesn't, really?

That could have happened to any airline.

It's really sad when you think about all the lives lost and how quickly the Airline was able to bounce back.

But the fact still remains that they are back and running.

Life really does go on #bittersweet.

And to add to it, they still have a lot of customers.

I mean the Air plane was full to the brim.

And there I was thinking, I and my colleague with maybe ten (10) or five (5) other customers will be the only people on the flight.

Assumptions. Assumptions.

Anyway, am not here as an advocate for Dana Air especially since they are not paying me.

Yels, #AjayiNoSalary :).

But I just had to share the fact that I used the "dreaded" Airline (for now) and it wasn't that bad :).

Diary Entry: 19-01-2013

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Breaking News

Everyday Life With Tosyn now has a Facebook Page :  (

Please visit the Page and while you at it, shift your mouse slowly and click on the “like” button :)

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The Garbage Truck Theory

I read this “story” that am about to share now a while back and it really changed the way I view people’s reactions / attitude.

I sure do hope you read it and also get the insight I got from it.


Story by David J. Pollay (the Author of The Law of the Garbage Truck)
How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood?

Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss or an insensitive employee ruin your day? 

Read the “theory” below and get a different perspective:

Several years ago, I learned this lesson. 

I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. 

Here's what happened. 

I hopped in a taxi and we took off for Grand Central Station. 

We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches! 

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. 

And I mean...he was friendly. 

So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? That guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!.

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, ‘The Law of the Garbage Truck’.

''Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you” 

When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally

You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. 

You'll be happy you did.

I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me?

And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets

It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it anymore’.

“Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe that everything happens for a reason” 

Never let the Garbage Truck run over you. 

Choose to be HAPPY.

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Monday, January 14, 2013


The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbor as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves ~ Eric 

Life is a mirror. 

People may not always be nice to You when You are nice to them. 

But at the end, nothing beats that feeling of self-love and self-appreciation; 

For doing the right thing. 

For loving the "un-lovable". 

Suddenly you realize being nice wasn't about the "other" person. 

It was and will always be about YOU

For at the end of the day, you only give what you have

So if what you give is LOVE, then kudos my friend.

You have something great in you after all. 

Life is a mirror. 

Be proud of your reflection. 


Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Let It Go

Dear Diary,

I just had an epiphany.

Definition: a sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple, homely, or commonplace occurrence or experience (

And what I just realised is that I am was a hoarder.

No, I don’t have a house filled with junk, quite to the contrary for those who know me.

But I do know how to hold on to memories, relationships and sometimes “hurtful” words in my head.

So while others “store up” junk in their homes, I store up intangible memories, some good ones and some bad ones, in my head.

And overtime, the “storage unit” (my head) has gotten overly cluttered.

So I knew it was time to de-clutter (separate the good/useful from the bad).

Thus, my “pursuit of serenity” which eventually led me to a certain message by Bishop T.D Jakes titled Let It Go.

Now why am I sharing this “publicly”?


1)  I want someone out there to read the words in Bishop T.D Jakes message (below) and realise (just like I did) that sometimes its best to just Let It Go.

We all have to learn how to “de-clutter” our lives, then and only then can we make room for new and beautiful memories.

So read and reflect :):

Let It Go by Bishop T.D Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! when people can walk away from you. Let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are bad people, it just means that their part in the story is over.

And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over.

Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains... LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth... LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge.... LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents .. LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude... LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better... LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him... LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.... LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves.. LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ... LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to... LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing this year!!!...just LET IT GO!!!

Self explanatory yeah.

The Journey continues :).

Footnote: In LET IT GO, T.D. Jakes serves as the reader’s personal tour guide through learning about and embracing forgiveness, a word that is an ever present part of our vocabulary but not something that we truly apply in our lives with any regularity or meaning.

Diary Entry : 09 – 01- 2013.

Friday, January 4, 2013

Before You Get Hitched! by Ekene Agabu

Hello Dear Ones,
It's time for me to share my usual "weekend" post and this time I decided to  share an article written by my Cousin (Ekene Agabu).
The article focuses on things to look out for before you get hitched (self explanatory title yeah). 

Some people may not agree with his "points" but I think they make sense and is worth reading.

So check it out:
I am at that point in life where if I am not at a wedding, I am either coming from one or going to one. Most of my peers have supposedly found their life partners and are ready to make it legit, in other words, legitimize their union religiously and legally. Everything leading up to the wedding day is usually exciting, but many at times there’s  that  3a.m phone call I get 6 months after the wedding that tells me we might be closer to the courthouse than we were to the church.

I’m sure you’ve heard phrases like, ‘He’s the one’ or ‘I’ve found my soul mate.’  Ok, if that’s true, why are you looking for a way out from ‘the one?’ Don’t get me wrong, I believe in love and finding the ONE, but more so, I am a bigger believer in the path that leads you to the ONE. You’ll come to realize that as individuals, we have more control over the path we take than the actual destination. Most times, the path has a way of revealing what the eventual destination will be like. You must understand that there is only one ONE, and that ONE is YOU. Until you become the one, this process of finding the other one may lead to quite a number of errors, and in some cases, fatal errors.

There are 5 things you must consider before you get to the altar or courthouse especially if you want to make it your last trip.

Marry someone you are totally Crazy about
Being crazy about someone is a feeling that makes your heart beat twice as hard at the mention of this person’s name. Your heart skips a beat when they walk into the room. There is something in you that responds to their presence. It’s a feeling only you can understand but never articulate. It’s a feeling that transcends any bad day or tragic event. 

No matter how horrible your day might have been, nothing gives you more comfort than knowing that in a matter of minutes, at the end of a long and hectic day, you will be seeing the person that brings the most joy to your heart – not because of anything they have done, but simply because of who they are. 

Go back with me if you will to grade school, say the 5th Grade; Do you remember those crushes you had? Do you remember how you felt when the boy you secretly admired asked if he could use your pen? Do you remember when that girl you were always drooling about said ‘Bless you’ after you sneezed? I know, her ‘Bless you’ sounded different, right? And you went home thinking, ‘she likes me’ not knowing she had said ‘Bless you’ to 5 other guys that day. 

I referred to the 5th grade when we must have been about 10 or 11 before the unset of puberty (now if you were older, you’ve got some explaining to do). There were no butts or boobies to look at. It was a sincere attraction to who the person was and not what they had or didn’t have. This craziness I speak of is a loving attraction that will exist between you and this person and as silly as it may sound, should be the foundation of any relationship you plan on getting into. Now remember, if you are not crazy about him or her, you will eventually get attracted to someone you are crazy about even after you are married. That wedding band around your finger only tells the world that you are married to someone, it can’t make you love them or better yet – it can’t make you crazy about them.

Marry someone whom you have reverential respect for
We all know what respect means. This is deeper than that. Growing up in high school, I respected my teachers. Now to some of you, I know that might sound strange, but we greeted them first, addressed them politely and followed their instructions provided it was within educational ramifications. You see, I’m not talking about that. I respected them but I wasn’t in awe of them. I wasn’t amazed and intrigued by who they were or what they were. I respected them because they were older than me and probably because they had the power to decide whether I would be class of ’92 or class of ’02. Some of us are in relationships where we show respect because he is providing a good life for the family or because she is the mother of your kids. But besides what they are, there is really no reason to respect them.

This reverential respect has nothing to do with what this person is to you or what they do for you but more so, it’s about who they were even before you met them. It’s the thing that intrigues you about them. It could be their character, their vision, their personal discipline, their intelligence or their immense contribution to society. One thing is for sure; it’s usually something about them that you have nothing to do with but rather reminds you daily that this person is a gift to you. It’s almost impossible to abuse or mistreat someone you are in awe of.

In marriage, we get to see the best and worst of each other and it’s that awe factor that keeps us from just seeing people at the level of their mistakes or short comings – and you’ll have to admit, we all have them.

Marry someone you are totally physically attracted to
In my years of observation, I have come to realize that people make deals with themselves based on what they think they can get instead of being honest with themselves and saying, ‘I don’t think she is fine’ or ‘He just doesn’t cut it for me.’ Dude! 50 years is a long time to be looking at a head that you think is too big or feet that are ugly. If you’re going to lie in my bed, you better be everything I dreamed of and if I’m going to lie in yours, I better be everything you desired. I’ll speak as a man: Looking at a beautiful woman, is like experiencing a 70 degree day in January. She brightens up the whole place. She attracts and commands attention. We may look calm and collected when we are talking with you for the first time, but trust me, we can’t hear a word you’re saying. We are mesmerized by your beauty. I didn’t say makeup – I said beauty.

If you are a guy and you know you love large breasts, please don’t marry someone with a B-cup and if you know you love a woman’s rear, please marry someone with a sizable butt. If you marry someone who is missing something you like, you’re going to hurt her. How? You ask. 

If you are not mesmerized by your wife’s physical beauty, you will find it difficult to give her the heartfelt compliments that she truly deserves. Women run on heartfelt compliments. You may not cheat on her but you will cheat her and rob her of loving words that she would love to hear on a daily basis. When a man is physically attracted to a woman, he can’t help but say it to someone. If he’s living with her, who do you think he will be saying to? When he’s married to a woman that he is hot for, his mouth will be a volcano for compliments anytime he sees her. It is close to impossible to keep your hands to yourself let alone your words around a woman you consider amazing.

Delay physical intimacy
This is where most people mess up a good thing. Physical intimacy should be the last stage discovered in a relationship. You must develop a mental and emotional connection over a period of time before embarking on the physical journey. How you build your relationship determines how you live in it. You want to make sure that your relationship is based on commitment and not attachment. A commitment to a person is; wanting to be with that individual void of any external forces. An attachment is; needing to be with the individual due to external forces. I’ll give you an example. Most of you go to work because you are attached – you need the money and in turn that pays your bills and helps you look like you are somebody in society. On the other hand, there are people who hold volunteer positions and don’t get paid a dime. These individuals are there because of a deep passion for the issue they are a part of. They are committed. They can walk away at anytime but the love for what they do keeps them there. They don’t need to be there, they want to be there.

Most ladies who have slept with guys too soon often try to make the relationship work because they do not want to lose what they have already lost, so they remain trying to recapture something that never existed. They’ve just given their apparent sense of self and worth to this guy and now they feel obligated to stay no matter how bad things get because they laid the sacrifice down too soon. Deep down, they know it was a mistake to have had sex too soon, so to recover the loss they work really hard to try to make something out of nothing. 

When you have a baby for a guy, you become attached. You want to have a baby for a guy who is committed to you. You don’t want to marry a guy who is committed to his baby and attached to you. An attachment means’ I’m stuck with you and I have to be with you’ while a commitment means ‘I want to be with you – not just in you.’ You can never get a commitment out of an attachment but you can always create an attachment within a commitment. Never let your bodies get attached to each other before your hearts are committed to each other.

Never marry someone you need – Marry someone you love
Never marry someone who needs you. Needs are some of the most deceptive things on earth. They are temporal and selfish. When someone needs you, you are not the Subject, but the object to getting that need fulfilled. Once that need has been fulfilled, you become a nuisance in that scenario. What am I talking about? If a lady has a need to be married because all her friends are married, she’ll get you and keep you, but once that need in her has been fulfilled, your relevance to her begins to diminish day by day. 

You see, in relationships, we desire a true loving connection with another human being and this cannot exist in the presence of any deception. If you are not with someone because you sincerely love them for who they are, you are using them and once their use over, you’ll focus elsewhere and you subconsciously become available to extra marital company without knowing it. For a guy, all its going to take is a lady outside to stroke his ego and for a lady it’s probably going to take that one guy at work who gives her a heartfelt compliment that she has truly yearned for but never received.

A lot of folks are still married and living in the same house but all the while their hearts are looking outside through separate windows. Marriage is not where your physical body is, it’s where you heart is. 

So if that’s the case; why not follow your heart? You never want to find yourself in a place of wonder – wondering what your life would have been like if you really married the person you truly loved. You owe it to yourself and the family you’ll create to be true to yourself when making this decision. Your kids will be blessed or scared by it. You life will be on track or derailed by it.

You must remember that divorce is not an issue for the Courts; it’s a matter of the heart. So before you make that decision to marry this person, consider these five things, so that first trip down the aisle of your heart also becomes the last one.

Question: Do you agree with his point of view?

Feel free to share your opinion. 

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

A Tool for 2013

My friend told me about a very cool idea she saw on Pinterest and I thought it would be nice to share it with YOU.

Trust me, when you are done reading this post you will be eager to start your "blissful" journey into 2013.

Here is the tool for this wonderful journey:

Sure you will be wondering; that is just a jar na...*rolling your eyes*.

Don't roll them too much ko!!!!

Here is what you can do with this wonderful "tool" in the course of your 2013 journey:

Step 1
Keep the jar or box in an accessible place in your home or office.

Step 2
Cut out little pieces of paper (small enough to fit into the jar or box, big enough to contain at least a sentence, try not to write too much or you will need a book at the end of the day).

Step 3
This is the most important step: Write down "every" memorable event and milestone achieved in 2013 on these little pieces of paper and drop them in the "tool" (the jar or box), starting from the first day of 2013 to the last day.

Note: these memories and milestones don't have to be huge or extraordinary, every little event counts, but they should be very dear to your heart as they will serve as a reminder of the little blessings you have experienced in 2013.

Now after "saving" up these little nuggets of joy, try not to be tempted to open the jar or box before the end of the year.

On the 31st of December, 2013, make out time to open your "jar" or "box", relish pulling out and reading what you have written on these little pieces of paper.

Trust me, you will be surprised.

You will either realize that you were probably too quick to complain about life while forgetting these blessings.


It may just dawn on you that the mere fact that you made it to the end of 2013 and have two hands to open that jar or box, is a HUGE blessing in itself.

Not a bad idea yeah?

Now it's time to try it.

Happy 2013 Dear Ones and Yes, We made it!!!!!!.



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